Lola- Fuzzykins

Not much has changed in the last few months other than Lola going from a sleek pup to a little fuzz ball. Hopefully she will be going into get her hair cut soon.

Lola pawsChristmas is just around the corner and I have already started my shopping, I will not be partaking in the crazy after Thanksgiving madness that Black Friday has become, I don’t need anything that badly, nor do any of the people on my shopping list.
Oh goodness I thought of something that has changed, my best friend Jenny is engaged!! It is very exciting. Although, they are planning a destination wedding which I’m not thrilled about. I am going to be the only attendant or bridesmaid or maid of honor, whatever you want to call me I’m it. It’s going to be in the Virgin Islands, next November… and there goes all my vacation money for the next 2 years. I don’t know what the proper procedures are for destination weddings, but I think it’s a little crappy to expect all these people to spend their vacation going to your wedding, I just couldn’t do it, unless I was going to pay for everyone to go. Well I’m pretty sure they aren’t going to pay for me, but it better be one hell of a trip, because this will be my first time to the Virgin Islands and possibly my last so I’d like it to be awesome. The other problem is it will be just me. I’ve met her family, but I don’t really know them all that well, so I have a feeling that it may be a little bit awkward, which I just super excited about. Hopefully there are some attractive bartenders working. I guess we will just have to see what happens. I should probably start getting beach ready… maybe after the holidays 🙂

Oh and I got bangs.

happily single,

melany

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6 things in 6 months

Hello all… I have decided to make a list of all the things I want to do more of and I’m giving myself the next 6 months to get a start on them, because I know it wont all happen at once.

The first thing I have actually already started is to lose weight. I know another girl who wants to lose weight, I’ve heard that one before. Well I don’t have a great body image at the current time, but I do remember a time when I did. This is not just a 6 month thing, I’m actually giving myself until I turn 30 to reach my “normal weight” which is between 130lbs to 145lbs. I’ve decided to give myself lots of time. 2 years isn’t really that far away, and it’s actually less than 2 years now. I’ve lost 7lbs so far!! It’s a daily battle, one in which I’m aiming to concur. I’ve given myself until I turn 30, because after 30 stats show it becomes much harder to lose weight. Oh and I will be a healthier me. (once I lose a little more I’ll tell ya what I started at, just not ready yet.)

Next up hobbies. I have been seriously slacking on the hobbies. I really like art, both creating and viewing. So I have decided to not only work on creating more paintings and drawings (that is mainly what I did before Art school stole part of my soul), I also want to see more of what others create. I’m hoping to do the next art crawl, if I know about it enough in advance. Also perhaps a trip to the art museum is in order, I haven’t been there since I was 13 or 14. As far as creating more, I had my sights set on this cool art work that I saw at Target, well they of course don’t have it anymore. So I was searching the internet for something similar and then realized: 1. I’m not going to find what I want and 2. I can create my own thing. I’ve started purchasing paint and brushes for it!! So excited!

Go on more walks. I don’t just mean for exercise, but just in general. Fall is coming and I really want to enjoy being outside more before winter. Fall is by far my favorite season, the leaves changing, the brisk autumn air, and comfy sweatshirts.

I figured something about financials should be on here, so in the next 6 months I want to payoff 1 student loan. I think if I can do that I will feel a real sense of accomplishment.

Take a trip to somewhere. I’m thinking either I just start driving and see where I end up, or… I find the cheapest flight and just take it! I haven’t quite figured out what I’m going to do, but I have 2 weeks of vacation to use before the end of the year, so I’m going to go somewhere in the next couple months.

Start baking again. I used to bake all the time when I owned my bistro, but since it’s been kind of a sharp pain to the chest when I think about baking some of the goodies I used to bake on a regular basis. Well I think enough time has past that I put on the apron and pull out the rolling pin. (which reminds me I need to get a rolling pin 🙂 ) I don’t know which was better my Honey Tea Cakes, Chocolate Cake or my Amazing Scones… I’ll post some pictures when I make them.

Not a long list but they say if you write your goals down you are more likely to accomplish them. I’ll try to post every time I accomplish one of these things (or at least start one).

happily,

melany

Gifts, Gifts, and more Gifts

I recently watched a movie called My Fake Fiance. While this movie was over all pretty mediocre, it made some good points, which got me to thinking…

 

Gift giving. One of my very good friends had a house warming party this evening, which I opted out of due to a cold that has been wearing me down all week. Although the real reason is I don’t want to give them any more gifts. My friend got married a few years ago and then last winter they had a baby. First comes the wedding…

Weddings are great, in fact I love weddings (who doesn’t like an open bar??). I just don’t want or feel the need to ever take that long walk down the isle. When it came to my friend she not only had a wedding, but also a bridal shower and bachelorette party. So first a shower gift, then a much more fun and scandalous bachelorette gift and then a wedding gift. I was doing some research on how much an average shower gift costs and it was pretty much on how much can you afford. Although one site suggested a coworker or distant friend between $75 to $100 was normal. Okay so this friend of mine is fairly close so lets say I spent $100. I don’t remember what I spent or even what I gave them, but there is no way I spent more than that. I brought a gift to the bachelorette party, I know it was less so lets say $40 for that gift then the wedding present it’s self. Several websites suggest the shower gift should be about 20% of your budget and 60% should be for the wedding gift, and the other 20% for other gifts (bachelorette, engagement, etc). So if I spent $100 on the shower gift then the wedding gift should be $600??!! NO FREAKING WAY!

Re-calculating. As I know I didn’t spend $100 on a shower gift as my budget at the time would have never allowed I will drop that down to $20, call me cheap, but I’m pretty sure I spent more like $60 on the bachelorette gift, it was just more fun to shop for that stuff. And then the Wedding gift I probably spent something like $50.

Engagement present. My friends did not have an engagement party, thank goodness or that would have been yet another gift, let say they had, and I gave them around a $20 gift.

So far: $150

They bought a house almost right after, house warming gift $30.

Then they went and had a baby. Baby shower gift: $50.

First Birthday party gift: $20 (the baby hasn’t turned 1 yet, but I’m sure a party with gifts will be involved.)

I could go on but hopefully by now you get the point. I’m up to $230 and with that the assumption is that when I get married and start having babies I will get the favor returned. But in my case there is no return. So I’m out this money because my friends decided they wanted to start a life together and I guess I have to pay for it. Me. Single little me, trying to start a life too, but I can’t have a single for life get together!

I guess it just frustrates me. At least I’m single and don’t have to check in with anyone when I want to do something. Nor do I have to deal with exchanging duplicate gifts.

I am still happy I’m single,

melany

what I don’t want…

So I’ve been dating. I’ve went out on a few dates with a couple different guys. I’m just trying to figure out what I want, and instead pessimistic me came out the other side with my top 10 list of things that make you not datable (at least to me)…

10. Spelling B. Don’t text me if you are going to spell words wrong. It just looks like laziness, therefor I assume you are just not that into me so you aren’t taking the time to correct it. Most of the time your phone does it for you like “corse” instead of “course”. Little things like that drive me crazy… however I find it annoying when people correct my spelling so I won’t correct yours. (auto-corrects are okay, and usually pretty funny)

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9. Didn’t you go to college? This one time I had a guy correct my grammar and then asked “Didn’t you go to college?” Oh by the way Patrick you didn’t correct my grammar I said it correctly the first time. UGH! I don’t care if you went to college or not but if you even one time correct my speech or spelling for that matter, we are done.

8. NO CROCKS!! These shoes are so ugly and soooo unattractive. Are you a baby or an old woman gardening?? No? Then you shouldn’t be wearing these shoes. The only guy I had a second date with wore crocks to the date. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? I was already on the fence about this guy and that just pushed me over the edge. Actually when I saw him I wanted to build a fence around myself and hide so no one would see me out with a guy wearing crocks. Call me shallow I don’t care, footwear is important.

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7. Rednecks need not apply. If I need a step ladder to climb into your truck this isn’t going to work for me.

6. Chatty Charlie. So I went on this one date and the guy talked the entire time, I said about 10 words for the whole hour and a half we ate and there was never a moment of silence. Oh and the couple times I did say something his response was always “DAAAMN!!!” Seriously?

5. Need a pick me up. A drivers license is very important if you can’t drive this isn’t going to work. I’m not going to make a guy pick me up for all our dates, in fact I prefer to meet somewhere, but I don’t want to have to pick you up. Don’t get me wrong there was a time when I didn’t have a drivers license… just call me when you get yours back.

4. Prison time, I got no time. A few years ago I went out with a guy that had been in prison for selling drugs. Of course he didn’t tell me this until our second date, and then he introduced me to his brother who asked me if I wanted to join him for a bowl. Ahhh… good bye.

3. Bad teeth, bad news. My teeth are far from perfect, I rarely smile for pictures because I don’t like them. BUT teeth are still important and show that you have good hygiene. Anyone can take a shower and comb their hair but if you haven’t been taking care of your teeth there is just no hiding that.

2. Hit me baby one more time, or NOT. That is all I have to say about that.

1.The seasons change, I don’t. Don’t try to change me, I like the person I am, if you don’t to bad.

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Perhaps I can come up with the top things I want… but I’m not going to hold my breath.

still happily single,

melany

A Blog Post.

I’m not sure what I should talk about. Although it has been a while since my last post and I feel like I should write up some awesomely fantastical blog post. But alas I’ve got nothin. Maybe something will come to me by Sunday.

 

Oh my goodness!! I just realized that I need to get out and do more things, I haven’t posted in weeks… or what seems like weeks and I really have nothing to say! What is happening to me?? I am not lame! I will come up with something to do and I am going to write an awesome post on it! Don’t you go judging me! Things are already starting to formulate… stay tuned.

Netflix, Cereal and an Ex-boyfriend.

So the weekend is almost over. And this is what I did…

 

Friday Night 8:17pm

I recently started watching Orange is the New Black on Netflix, I just finished the F*cksgiving episode. Piper was in solitary and got fed nasty moldy food. GROSS!!

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9:44pm

Despite the nasty food on Orange is the New Black I decided to eat some cereal! Yum… love me some Honey Nut Cheerios!

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10:19am

Contemplate the relationship I have with the Ex.

1:01am

Ugh! Did realize how late it was, time for bed.

Saturday. 10:11am

Woke up super late to a text message from my ex asking what I had going on today (which is code for: if you are going to see your parents you should stop by). I responded with a you woke me up and I plan on cleaning, what are you doing today message… the conversation continued for the rest of the day on and off.

10:41am

Contemplate the relationship I have with the Ex.

10:58am

Thought about having waffles for breakfast, but cereal was easier. More Honey Nut cheerios here I come.

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12:00pm

Took Lola for a walk, cut it short due to it not being as warm out as I thought.

12:17pm

Contemplate the relationship I have with the Ex.

1:07pm

Decided to spend the remainder of the day watching That 70’s Show. I needed some laughs.

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4:31pm

Laziness set in so more cereal was on the menu, this time I went with Fruit Loops!

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9:02pm

Contemplate the relationship I have with the Ex.

10:11pm

Went to bed a bit earlier so maybe I wouldn’t be so lazy on Sunday.

Sunday.

7:49am

Text from ex: What are you doing today?

Me: Still need to clean, didn’t get to it yesterday. What you up to?

Ex: Might go grocery shopping.

Me: If you do you should stop by.

Ex: Ok

8:16am

Ex: I’m going to stop by in a bit, and by that I mean I’m leaving now and will be there in how ever long it takes to drive from my place to yours.

Me: Ok

8:25am

Mad Cleaning!!

8:42am

Back to watching That 70’s Show. The one where Eric pulls down Donna’s pants in front of everyone and she is wearing granny-panties. Watched a few more episodes with the Ex.

11:38am

Time to do some dishes since the Ex is gone, decide to eat a bowl of cereal first. Honey Nut Cheerios again…

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12:21pm

Go to Walmart, post on Facebook: I hate Walmart! The checkouts were insane!!! Home again set up the shoe organizer I bought, it works great. Now I have an excuse not to get rid of any shoes!!

2:10pm

It is time for more Netflix and more cereal.

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2:12pm

Contemplate the relationship I have with the Ex.

5:05pm

Decided to write a blog post about nothing.

6:33pm

Still happy that I’m single.

what no one told me about college…

Ahh college… best years of your life they say. Of course “they” also say that about high school and no one really knows who “they” are. Anyway while I was running my business (which I later closed) directly after college money was tight so I deferred the majority of my student loans. Now I know people with a lot more student loans than I have however I know a whole lot more people who don’t have any, most of who either didn’t go to college or had mommy and daddy pay their way.

I did go to college, I have two pieces of paper to prove it! I did not have help from my parents, other than the occasional… wait nope that was my sisters who got gas put in their cars and money for lunch on campus. I worked full time and took out student loans. And now I’m paying for it. Literally. Sure there are some things I would have done differently, like take out less in student loans (and maybe had a few less Screwdrivers).

The thing is know one tells you to sit down do the math of how much your payments are going to be when you are done, until you are done and Sallie Mae starts sending you bills! Currently I am behind on my student loan payments, which is awesome cause you can’t change your payment plan until you are caught up, but of course every month you fall farther and farther behind until finally you get one of the ones you’ve been paying diligently on gets paid off (10 years later) and you can start to pay on the other ones… ok that might be a bit of an exaggeration- or at least I’m hoping it is.

Either way if you are about to start college and you are paying for it all by yourself, figure out how much it will cost you per month when you are finished. Also look into the field you are going to and figure out starting wage of that job and see if you will make enough to pay your student loans and rent. (My student loan payments per month are more than my rent and utilities together) Please just do the math, make sure it’s something you think will actually work out. I’m not an accounting expert, although I did take a college accounting course, haha.

This is just my opinion, I do think college is important and a great experience. Not one day of my life do I regret going to college, even while making my student loan payments.

live happily,

melany